Ricey Posted December 15, 2011 Share Posted December 15, 2011 Woman and a Man got married at 19 & 20 respectively. They are from old school working class backgrounds, have the values of working hard, preparing for the future, family comes first, last and in the middle. They go on to have 3 children who they bring up with the same values and move out to the countryside into a house that will serve as the family home for the next 30 odd years. They drink little, don't smoke, eat only fresh and wholesome food. The kids grow up and with these value avoid the possession orientated, console/computer, credit addicted society in which most of us fall into and are taught to enjoy life by playing with friends, doing things in the outdoors, playing with each other and generally turn out to be well balanced, normal people. The family operate with the values that you find someone you love, get married, build a home, have children and pass these values on - you prepare for your future and the future of your family, pay your bills and most of all are happy together. You work through the thick and enjoy the thin together with love and happiness. They spend frugally and always prepare for the worst so when the man after many years of shift work realises that he's not seen his wife for 3 days as they're passing each other with the shifts he walks into work where he has worked up from the bottom as a fitter turner to have a very well paid job and hands his notice in and walks out. With 3 young children, mortgage and bills/cars to run he comes home with a heavy heart and explains what he's done to his wife - his wifes response was 'I'd best put the kettle on then'. They get to 54 and 53 years of age and decide its time to reap the rewards of this hardworking, careful lifestyle, they have married off their daughters and paid (outright) for their weddings and sent their son through university (outright) and all their children have now moved out. There roles have been fulfilled and now they can look forward to retirement which they have worked and prepared all their lives for. Grandchildren are coming out yearly and they can now start the grandparenting they were made for. 18 months after they retire the woman is diagnosed with a rare cancer. Its caught and treated with an all clear following a severe course of chemotherapy. The scans continue to show all clear for another 6 months and their youngest daughter gives birth to their 4th grandchild in May 2011. In June 2011 it is discovered that the cancer was back and it was back everywhere, bowels, lungs, kidneys, lungs. There was no hope but they fight with chemotherapy just to try and give any time they can with their family right to the bitter end. At 2.30pm on the 15th December 2011 - the woman died peacefully in a hospice. She leaves a husband who has been by her side for over 35 years, 3 children, 2 son in laws, both parents, a mother in law, a sister in law, a sister..........and a nephew devastated. She was a woman who literally never brought harm, sadness or anything other than love to anyone she met. We take life so much for granted and we sometimes forget - fate doesn't discriminate, it doesn't care who you are and what you have done. This isn't a post wanting your sympathy - its a reminder that a week before xmas when your probably stressed, worried about money, having the kids driving you up the wall.........enjoy life whatever you are doing and try and live for today. Gill had 55 years of absolute love and happiness but it should have been so much more - its cruel and unfair that it isn't but that was what fate had in store. RIP Gill Hayes - 15/12/2011 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ATTAK Z Posted December 15, 2011 Share Posted December 15, 2011 made me cry Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DoogyRev Posted December 15, 2011 Share Posted December 15, 2011 RIP Gill Our thoughts are with you all Just remember the good times Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MITZ@CougarStore Posted December 15, 2011 Share Posted December 15, 2011 RIP Gill, sorry to learn of your loss, Ricey... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
glrnet Posted December 15, 2011 Share Posted December 15, 2011 Bugger, I've filled up now. Brought back some horrible memories. +1 what Jim said though, remember the good times, she clearly brought a huge amount of love and happiness to a lot of people. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Neilp Posted December 15, 2011 Share Posted December 15, 2011 Paul, my thoughts are with you all. Theres no words which make people feel better in these occassions. I'm gutted for you and your family mate. We lost an aunt who was young to cancer. She fought and fought and eventually could no more. It has taken a while for things to be relatively normal again. Just remember all the great times you shared and keep lots of family around you throughout this time of the year... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JT350GT4 Posted December 16, 2011 Share Posted December 16, 2011 R.I.P. Sorry to hear of your loss on the short run up to christmas ! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bronzee Posted December 16, 2011 Share Posted December 16, 2011 What you've posted are the things to remember in the future and do not mourn, celebrate the joy she left in her trail. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rmgthatsme Posted December 16, 2011 Share Posted December 16, 2011 Please accept my sincere condolences for your loss. Have myself lost my father when he was only in his mid fifties in the first year of retirement and my brother to a motorbike accident. I do hope that with this and each passing Christmas your family will remember her wonderful life and it brings you closer together, reminding you of the importance of family. Sounds like she would really want that. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
neo Posted December 16, 2011 Share Posted December 16, 2011 sad news indeed, why does this happen to all the good people in the world............... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AK350Z Posted December 16, 2011 Share Posted December 16, 2011 A fitting tribute Paul, my condolences for your loss. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gball1973 Posted December 16, 2011 Share Posted December 16, 2011 Thoughts are with you Paul. It's a bloody awful disease - it doesn't discriminate. One of my ex's died just a few weeks ago from a brain tumour. I hadn't seen her in years and our break up wasn't the best, so i didn't even know she was ill, but it brought back a lot of memories - good and bad but i'll always try to remember her with a smile. Turns out that the tumours (yes, multiple) were found just weeks after she had been given the all clear. She had already went through the masectomy, recontruction and chemotherapy. All at 38 years young. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jimmy P Posted December 16, 2011 Share Posted December 16, 2011 Tragic story mate, my thoughts are with you and the rest of the family. If cancer was a person I would smack it in the face, it always seems to affect the nicest people. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tarmac@TarmacSportz Posted December 16, 2011 Share Posted December 16, 2011 Very sad, nicely written Paul... Sorry for your loss Brother Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ds2000 Posted December 16, 2011 Share Posted December 16, 2011 RIP. Sorry to hear of your loss but your words are lovely and made me well up Life can be cruel but it sounds very much like Jill saw and loved more in her 55 years than many do in their entire lifetimes. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Stoker11 Posted December 16, 2011 Share Posted December 16, 2011 Sorry to hear of your loss,my thoughts are with you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
EH 370z Posted December 16, 2011 Share Posted December 16, 2011 My sincerest condolences old chap, but you are so right. These things do put one’s life into to perspective, which is the only good to come from so much bad. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Beavis Posted December 16, 2011 Share Posted December 16, 2011 Accept my deepest condolences Paul, very sorry for your loss. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rtbiscuit Posted December 16, 2011 Share Posted December 16, 2011 sorry to hear this paul, my condolences my parents are going through this as well, a clsoe family friend died of a brain tumor on the 15th as well. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
docwra Posted December 16, 2011 Share Posted December 16, 2011 Thats a beautiful eulogy, she sounds like a fine lady. So sorry for your loss. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sparky370z Posted December 16, 2011 Share Posted December 16, 2011 what a beautiful piece. i really made me well up. it makes me think of all of the people i love and care for. so sad for your loss fella. remember all those great times you had!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
M13KYF Posted December 16, 2011 Share Posted December 16, 2011 deepest condolences Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Humpy Posted December 16, 2011 Share Posted December 16, 2011 Thinking of you at this difficult time. Thoughts are with you and your family. Steve. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ricey Posted December 16, 2011 Author Share Posted December 16, 2011 Thanks for the kind words all. I can't really explain what an amazing family these people are. They're a family that you simply don't see any more. They are genuniely a couple that instill the belief in me that marriage actually does mean something and can survive the test of time. In 29 years I've never seen or heard them have a crossed word. Suppose all the grandchildren will be a blessing to my uncle to keep him busy. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LRF4N Posted December 16, 2011 Share Posted December 16, 2011 Sorry to hear that bud If the world was full of more people like her and families like hers it would be a much better place to be. These family values u mentioned are fading in today's society. Gives a stark reminder of the things that matter in life, and hopefully it will help u guys put ur lives into perspective and help raise families in which these values continue. All the best mate Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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