You don't have to air your problem, but by being vague all you're doing is hurting Abbey, the members of this forum and the forum as a whole. Because no-one really knows the issue, we don't know if Abbey f*cked up a little bit, a massive bit, or whether you're making the whole thing up.
I get the whole not-rocking-the-boat thing, I do, but then you might as well say nothing at all.