Wendy

Chaps. This thread really has beaten us women up. No wonder we don't come on here often !! :-) I am proof a failed relationship (marriage) can result in a lasting friendship with no strings at all !!25 years ago now,. ! Neither of us had other people involved both and were single for quite a while. He has had numerous relationships since which he tells me of. I am often saying 'You can't do that' when I think he is being horrid !!!! It is highly amusing ! We sorted all our own finances including the house (owned) and cars. We saw solicitors just to draw up a document to state we had no father financial call on each other. Me, the odd relationship, but being single has worked very well for me more likely related to my background I came from a very badly split up home. My parents break up was dire. My father left when I was 10 never to be seen again.!!!!!! My mother told me everything, leant on me, told me my father was awful in every possible way. I took over the running of the house. Mental cruelty it is called today.! She often told us when not good, the reason we were with her, was because our father did not want us. Great, no one wanted us. Needless to say this was very damaging. We lost all my Fathers family in this too. My brother thinks to this day I brought him up. He is 5 years younger than me. All this being in the late 70's. No one I knew had divorced parents. There were no single parents !!! I would strongly recommend Counselling. It can take an age with the NHS, so consider Marriage Guidance. It is there to assist break ups too and requires donations rather than a fixed fee. My Mother is now on her 4th marriage !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! 3 years ago I broke relations with her. She is poison. So yes, some women are bad but, I have never got over or understood how my father could leave his children. .At 12 years old, I knew I would not have children, afraid would be like my Mother and never ever wanting to put a child through this. If only someone had considered us, they need counselling too ! Whilst I realise it is a step child being discussed here and you do need to walk away from your partner. Please at least consider writing a nice letter to the child offering the opportunity to call /write to you for happy chats and catch ups. The child will at least feel supported. He does not need quizzing over his Mother's movements mind !! You may not be able to do this now, I know you have to think of you first but in 3 months maybe when everything has settled a little. It breaks my heart what happens to children in break ups and they are so often disregarded. Keep strong and remember time goes a long way to healing and making you stronger in the long run. I wish you good luck and a peaceful mind. Wendy

Evening all. We would love to meet up with some of the Scottish Forum folk. It would be great if you joined us whether for dinner, an afternoon drive out or a overnight trip I have planned our Tour of Scotland for June and have 2 rooms (twins/ doubles) available. We depart the South of the England on Friday morning 19th June with the trip including the majority of the North Coast 500 returning south on Sat 24th June. We have some good driving and time to visit castles or such likes..... Currently we are 5 cars and all 350z Forum members. Not all cars will be 350's, some sold them !!! Most of us 8 people are based in the Midlands area. If you would like to meet us and share dinner, an drive out or a overnight trip, just let me know your location. We are at times nearby/ish to Edinburgh, Glasgow, Inverness, Aberdeen, Ullapool. If you would like accommodation, please say. PM if you prefer. Hope to meet up with some of you soon. Wendy

Sometimes you can go onto one of the major Tyre Specialist websites and find tyres cheaper than the local branch. Like £100 to £150 cheaper Pay for them on line and deliver FOC to your local branch. Has Worked previously with ATS anyway. Black Circle otherwise in my experience.

If it helps any - Took my Doctor over 18months to convince me I was suffering from Depression some years back. I also come from a background where you 'Roll your sleeves up and get on with it'. 'Everyone gets low etc, that's life.' Stop Feeling sorry for Yourself etc etc. I learnt not to talk to anyone when down, I do it to this day despite knowing better !! Not too convinced about Anti Depressants as a medication, but definitely in Counselling - even if it is just pointing you in the right direction of books to read and aid yourself. For years I kept a book on any achievements - small things I had done making me feel good. As simple as Swept all the leaves from the Willow Tree in Autumn - nice neat garden now. It meant I could read it back when feeling low and assist motivating myself forward. Please look at the Positive and not negative of life - it only continues to hold you down looking at the negative.

Hey no worries. I was a member for around 4 years and it helped me masses. Just even going for 4 - 6 mile walks with others in an unknown area followed by a lunch if you want. Best is you can join in an event outside your local area too. There are weekends away, ski trips - you name it basically. The Birmingham group is highly active - not sure where your location is.

I would just add, all this happens to women as well who do not have children. I am genuinely surprised in life how many friends come and go. If it was not for my Ex Hubby stating this happens lots in his experience of himself and others, I would have thought it was me !! Don't know if you have heard of a Nationwide Group called Spice. It is around £12 per month and has masses of activities to attend every week joining other like minded people who still want to live life but do not always have the friends around. Check it out, nothing to loose by looking ........

Surely we must have a Forum Sugar Daddy who can help all us out. WE could set up our own series even !! Nissan 350 Club Racing - Any Car entry !! I took my Nat B Track Licence too - sadly just not the funds to Race

I so am buying a Porsche as my next car and thinking too either the Cayman or 996. Driven both and got to have one. So far no regrets really in my life and don't intend not having a Porsche at some stage to be my first !! Interesting reading this thread - sounds like I will be having to take some advise at the time too as I would not like to losing an arm and leg in finances. I love the 996 exterior, but do think the interior quite dire.............although the Investment might further my interest on this.!! Just got to sell my house first - downsizing, releasing funds - then finally Porsche time - been waiting so many years for my Porsche ownership. Only as I have gotten older do I finally appreciate why it is nearly always the older ones who own/drive the really good cars.

I am usually in the same boat, as I have next to no family. I either go away - Finland this year. Snow Mobiles, Husky Dog Sledging over 2 days, Cross Country Skiing, Snow Shoeing etc etc There are loads of companies who offer small group trips, say 12 - 16 people. Exodus, Explore, Mark Warner etc etc etc Or, I do a Waifs and Straifs Christmas at mine where I invite all folks who I know in a similar situation. Everyone turns up Xmas Eve, I prep Stocking fillers and all meals - and we usually have a ball. Volunteering is also a good thing to do - make you feel part of a family. You may already be too late for this though. Many people offers themselves for this really early. Hope you sort something.

There are some brilliant books around - on what its like to be British. I agree much more observation of the British Culture when you spend significant time out of the country. We are all slightly odd !!! A Small Island thing !!!

Apologies for those who missed the cake. It was for who ever was around !! It was nice !!! With cream or yogurt too !!!

Some nice photo's there. Thanks for taking some of my Corrado and sharing them, plus the cake !!!

Only 30 minutes from home for me too. Result! Will get pm done.

Happy Birthday Andy.

1) Humpy 2) kbad 3) Zeus 4) AaronC350z 5) wez370 6) Wendy

I took a year out in my late 20's to travel. Did not work during this time, thought about it loads mind !!! Only thing I would say, I have never settled properly since. Just want to constantly travel and experience the world. I would however to exactly the same again. Good Luck.

Holiday - yes, get it booked. Just do it, If it's any help, I would really recommend Exodus as a Travel Co. They are small groups, up to 16 usually. So you get loads of new experiences, plus plenty of opportunity to share the whole travel experience and hopefully make some new friends away from your previous situation. In my experience of these sorts of holidays you can make some friends for life. I have. As for your old relationship blues - keeping busy is good, but as said before - Do not overdo it - it can make it worse when on your own. Learning to adjust to life on your own is hard initially, but believe me - its great. I do now have cat company - so get another from a Rescue centre though !! As for another relationship in the future - please do not go there until you are completely over this one and feel you enjoy life again. Two years is the recognised time for getting over such events. I would also strongly consider Counselling - Relate or similar - They are there to assist in whatever form your relationship takes, including the splitting up and moving on. If by chance you got a counsellor who you did not get on with or had no respect for - don't give up - just ask for another. Finally remember - some folk are mega old in comparsion to you and those that are interested still manage to find partners, get married etc There is no rush. Most of all - Take care of yourself. Try to eat properly and allow yourself to grieve - it is ok to be hurt and cry. Cooking - if you organise yourself, sort your menu for the week, food shopping then cooking and for extra special dishes - a glass of wine ! It all can be very therapeutic.

I agree, it was dire. Also left after an hour or so.

ATS on line are considerably cheaper than local branches and sometimes have some offers too. They deliver them next day to your local ATS for fitting.

Manhatten Motors in Coventry. I would have no problems in recommending them having had a full restoration respray on my VR6 Corrado just 6 months ago. No idea of price mind. Good Luck

Wasn't me - although I pass through Coventry ish often !!

Thought after so long, I should update this thread. My car went into the body shop - Carbody in Banbury. Although the work was good that was done on the car, I did have some problems - mainly in being advised the car would be ready in 2 days, several times to be let down. Then when I finally got it back initially the alloy had not been done, tyre not replaced and was still a scuff on the rear quarter panel. However - everything is good now. I have to say Highway Insurance were superb throughout. Updating me regularly and dealing with any issues promptly and efficiently. I did get a copy of the Insurance work - it came to £2300. I would recommend Highway all day long on my experience.

Agree - this is not a criticism plus many folk are probably not even aware we do actually have Gazebo's, banners etc. I wasn't ......

IMO - Much too large a venue. Much of it looked (The Club Stands) like a Car Park. I felt it was badly organised - everything was very spread out with poor signage. Even when asking the the Marshalls - they obviously had not worked at Silverstone before as they were unable to guide you or have any knowledge of locations within the circuit. I even bought a brochure - the mapping in that was no better. As for the farce of the Stand Tickets - mine did not arrive, but I managed to get in easily !! I thoroughly enjoyed the Drifting however. But other than that don't think I would bother with Japfest at Silverstone again. I was really looking forward to this event and was overaly very dissappointed. OK - the weather did not help - it was freezing !! I appreciate none of this was Adam's fault, as he did his best to organise the Club Stand on hard standing - much appreciated by all and good location too on T4 beside the Paddock Cafe ! Also the 240, 260 and 280 Datsuns so close was a pleasure. Surprised at how many there were. I would like to add - for our Stand - at events like these. Is it possible to have say a Gazebo making a central point for Members to be able to congregate when not wandering around elsewhere. It would add to these events for newer members to be able to stand a chance of meeting up with others more easily. I personally have previously met just a few people, hardly any that I caught up with at Japfest which was dissappointing. Seems very much - the only people you ever really meet at such events are those you convoyed to the event.

Just as I was looking to see what else to attend this year, so i found this. Fantastic - will get organising.