I left home at 17 and never asked for anything.....although mama's cooking is the best in the world!!!
Advice nixy... a baseball bat always does the trick....if you shout surprise before you use it, the whole thing will be regarded as a gift and not abuse.....
As for the midnight noise......cheacky but try it.... tell him you heard them the other night and she is defo faking it..... then he will start using the pillow....