Hi TT you have done the right thing imho as it was heading that way as others have said. As for still hurting it will take quite a bit of time to sort out, I was with my 1st wife for 20years we have 2 almost grown up kids and when that went wrong I thought my life had ended!
However 18 months later I met a great lady called Sarah we hit it off straight away, I have been with her for nearly 6 years now, and married for nearly 2. If my first marriage hadn't gone wrong I wouldn't be where I am today!! Just give it time buddy.
Hope this helps.
Andy.
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