Hi Dan: We have not met and I have met only a few of the guys and gals but what a great bunch they are, eh?
Reading the very genuine sentiments of support has been a bit of a choker and brought back memories of a similar situation to yourself, 17 years back after the break up of my first marriage. I met June and like you, head over heels - she then found someone else - I was advised to move on - I did and avoided all contact - then when I started seeing someone else June came to wish me luck but as soon as we saw each other we knew what we had been missing and what we reallly wanted and in September will be celebrating 15 years of the best marriage a guy could want. (She must be special, encouraging me to get my second Z, when I know she would rather we just had her Jazz with a smaller engine! )
Moral is and as others have said; if you can break all contact but the feelings are genuine on both sides, not just yours, then who knows - you might find she realizes just what she is missing?