who to call your uncle and auntie

[ddcboyle]

Been having an argument with the missus over who to call uncle and auntie. Im from scotland shes from reading, not sure if this is where the different view lies.

 

My opinion : an uncle or auntie is only in the bloodline. I.e. your mothers sister, dads brother.

 

MIssus opinion: if a woman marries her uncle, she wiuld become her auntie as she has married into the family.

 

My Argument against that view is auntie/uncle is bloodline family which cant change. If your uncle keeps divorcing and remarrying, you have consistantly changing family.

 

Your opinions please

 

EDit: on a note, missus calls them by their title, I.e. uncle jim and his wife auntie jane. Where as my family would be auntie jacqueline and her husband graham. (Although j dont actually call them auntie when I see them)

Edited June 25, 2013 by ddcboyle

[AliveBoy]

I agree with your other half lol.

 

If your uncle re-marries then the 2nd wife is just known as "the bitch who married uncle *****"

[rtbiscuit]

aunts and uncles are the reference point to the brother/sister of your parents and their partner.

 

if you were to visit your aunt and uncle they'd be a couple and not just your uncle and his wife

[Ekona]

Your other half is correct.

 

My Dad's sister wasn't married when I was born, and I was an usher at her wedding when I was 16. Still makes her husband my uncle.

[370Ad]

Your other half is correct and from Reading so that's a double win

[ddcboyle]

This isnt going well for me. I was so confused when she said a husband becomes uncle in the family. Seems normally and stated kn the dictionary. But to me it doesnt make sense, anyone up north take my view? Trying to work out if its scottish, my family, or just me. My mum and dad are the only couple still married jn my family so theres no refernce I could use as aunties and uncles are all single now.. lol.

[Clarkie]

I'd agree with your other half, also we tend to refer to very close female family friends as auntie. I have 2 'bloodline' aunties and about 3 or 4 'other' aunties

[rtbiscuit]

I'd agree with your other half, also we tend to refer to very close female family friends as auntie. I have 2 'bloodline' aunties and about 3 or 4 'other' aunties

same in our family,

 

and sometimes even we're called anunt and uncle by our friends when they are talking to their kids. who we have no blood line to or relation

[AliveBoy]

I've got an "uncle" who is just some bloke who my parents are friends with. And no, he's never touched my special place either

[ddcboyle]

I can understand a close family friend being called uncle. I.e. id want my kids to call my best friend uncle, but thats because they would act like an uncle. Im not sure on calling them auntie or hncle simply because they are married to your family. They could be the worst uncle in the world lol.

 

What everyone says makes sense, ill need to speak with my parents and see if our family does it ( or if they would have done if my auntie/uncles were still married)

[AliveBoy]

Im not sure on calling them auntie or hncle simply because they are married to your family. They could be the worst uncle in the world lol.

 

They could be your fathers brother and be an axe wielding murderer, he would still be your uncle

[Ricey]

If thats an argument try this - I've got 'Aunties' and 'Uncles' who are no more than kindly older people who my nan's mates with!

[ddcboyle]

If thats an argument try this - I've got 'Aunties' and 'Uncles' who are no more than kindly older people who my nan's mates with!

 

I Do understand things like that though.

 

For me, bloodline uncle is your uncle no matter what.

 

Close family friend is known as uncle because they treat your children like their own and act like a role model.

 

Ur aunties husband being an uncle... u didnt choose that, not is it blood related. Just random.

[ddcboyle]

If anything it should be like the step-dad situation. It isnt ur father and you can call him bob all the time. But if you truely feel like hes a good role model, you choose to call him dad. But not because a dictionary said so, but out your own choice.

 

So id say your aunties husband would be bob, but if you felr a connection you call him uncle.

 

Just wierd the ddictionary tells you hes your uncle, and thats generally it haha. (Im not saying dictionary is the law)

[Ricey]

My mum (blood) and dad (husband) are divorced and my cousins did call him 'Uncle' up until they were adults.

 

Might be a Scottish thing perhaps - funny how different area's have there own theories on things.

[Ekona]

For the record, I call all my aunties and uncles by their first names. I wouldn't dream of calling them auntie or uncle to their face.

[elfman]

I've got a similar thing I never understood. My aunt had a child who my sister is god mother to as there is some 20 years between them and my sister and aunt where close. Now that child calls my sister aunty THAT CONFUSES ME SO MUCH! it's like why! But I'm northern and from a mining village so probably inbred 5 times over anyway.......

[elfman]

Also as pointed out by my better spoken other half all of my relatives are referred to as "our" anyway. For example I'm "our martin" like there's another martin in the background that I don't know about haha!

Edited June 26, 2013 by elfman

[AliveBoy]

Also as pointed out by my better spoken other half all of my relatives are referred to as "our" anyway. For example I'm "our martin" like there's another martin in the background that I don't know about haha!

 

So what do other Martin's get referred to as?

 

A Martin?

The Martin?

Your Martin?

His Martin?

Her Martin?

 

Or is it a possession thing?!

[BulletMagnet]

Imagine for a second you were Chinese...then you got this to deal with

 

[Ricey]

Also as pointed out by my better spoken other half all of my relatives are referred to as "our" anyway. For example I'm "our martin" like there's another martin in the background that I don't know about haha!

 

'Our' is a very Northern thing.

 

Specifically we use 'Our Kid' round my neck of the woods although to be fair I think thats a scouseism that we've adopted.

[Wendy]

Try this one - My mother is on her 4th Marriage.

 

So strictly speaking that means I have numerous Aunts and Uncles.

So presumably they are Step Aunts or Uncles, like I have Step Dad No 1, No 2 No 3 !!! :-)

 

But what is one of the Aunts or Uncles then remarries - does that make them a Step. Step Aunt or Uncle ?

 

(As it happens - I have a smaller family than most, as most the husbands an their families got lost on the way)

[AliveBoy]

Imagine for a second you were Chinese...then you got this to deal with

 

 

Say.... What?!

 

Mind = Blown!