Tarmac@TarmacSportz Posted October 28, 2010 Share Posted October 28, 2010 I can't believe what I was told last night My Grandad died a couple of weeks ago and it turns out that he left me a grand in his will. Im not bothered about the money tbh, yeah it would help but I never had it or earnt it so whatever. Anyway it turns out my own Father has contested the Will saying my Grandad was not in sound mind when he wrote it and that I shouldn't get the money... Bearing in mind my Dad and Uncle and two Aunties have been left around £200k in money, house and moody gold. Ive not had a lot to do with that side of the family since my Mum and Dad split nearly 20 years ago,but I offered for my Dad to come and see his one and only Grandaughter in hospital last year but he wasn't interested, didnt even send a card the miserable git.... I am just so shocked he would do that, its actually laughable, those who know me will know im a decent guy and those that really know me know I would go to hell and back for my daughter, Im just totally shell shocked anyone could do that to his own child and I think its the nail in the coffin for our relationship........ just another hassle I don't need in my life atm.... will be glad to see the back of 2010 tbh.... What has been going on in my mind though is if he's contesting the will saying my grandad wasnt in sound mind then doesnt that jeopardise the £50k he is set to recieve... its just ridiculous Didnt really want to post this up here but I needed to get it off my chest Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Husky Posted October 28, 2010 Share Posted October 28, 2010 bah leave it mate, if you rise above it people soon realise how stupid they have been Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tarmac@TarmacSportz Posted October 28, 2010 Author Share Posted October 28, 2010 Like I said im not bothered about the money, they can do what they like with it Just shell shocked is all Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Husky Posted October 28, 2010 Share Posted October 28, 2010 i can imagine Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Maccaman Posted October 28, 2010 Share Posted October 28, 2010 They say where there's a will there is a relative. This is really shitty & totally wrong. Are there a lot of other small bequests that they are contesting? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tarmac@TarmacSportz Posted October 28, 2010 Author Share Posted October 28, 2010 They say where there's a will there is a relative. This is really shitty & totally wrong. Are there a lot of other small bequests that they are contesting? Not as far as im aware, the first I heard of it was from my Mum last night... Ive not been contacted by anyone, I didnt even know there was a Will, let alone he had left me something.. It just seems so petty, greedy and laughable... Least I won't be following his examples in fatherhood... im going to be the best Dad in the world Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Maccaman Posted October 28, 2010 Share Posted October 28, 2010 Best way to be. Like John says, rise above it and be the best Dad you can. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nixy Posted October 28, 2010 Share Posted October 28, 2010 I don't know much about this kind of thing but I would imagine it would be far more cost and hassle for them having to contest for a measly grand than actually receiving it! No doubt you will have to be written to by solicitors etc etc and it could go on forever! Just make sure you don't employ anyone to do your side of things as it's pointless you spending money on it but hopefully will cost them a fortune! Tossers! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
James B Posted October 28, 2010 Share Posted October 28, 2010 Hey Tarmac, Really sorry to hear this. It's always a horrible situation to be in. My missus specialises in this area of law and while I'm not a professional I get a feel for some of it from her. It's a very strange situation to be honest in that most claims of this type come from a disgruntled relative who has been left out of the will entirely, not somone thats getting near on 25% (if I read it right) anyway. For him to contest the will he would have to have some grounds, good evidence that the deceased was either not mentally capable or you had been in contact trying to manipulate the system would be examples of this. Since the amount is so small relative to the size of the estate I doubt he will have much chance of changing the will and you'll probably get your money, unless you want to wash your hands of him and waive your right to the money. It will undoubtedly slow the process of you getting the money which, even if everything runs smooth, could be over a year. If you need the money then sit tight and you'll probably still get it. If not I'd be tempted to waive your rights to it and be rid of the douche bag once and for all. Good luck with whatever you decide. J Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tarmac@TarmacSportz Posted October 28, 2010 Author Share Posted October 28, 2010 Thanks guys, Im not going to do anything tbh, im certainly not getting involved in any legal matters, I don't have the time, money or effort to put into it 'even if I was bothered about the money'. I'd only seen my grandad a handful of times in 20 years so I certainly didnt try to manipulate him in any way.. I think greed sometimes takes over people in these circumstances Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
glrnet Posted October 28, 2010 Share Posted October 28, 2010 Hey buddy, I feel for you, didn't have the best relationship with my old man either but it sounds to me like you have already risen above it. It appears to me someone has to be very small minded to contest a grand going to his own son! Move on, forget the money and keep using the inspiration of your dad's ineptness to become the best Dad in the world, your daughter will thank you one day with the greatest gift you can have.....her love Just my two penny worth They say where there's a will there is a relative. This is really shitty & totally wrong. Are there a lot of other small bequests that they are contesting? Not as far as im aware, the first I heard of it was from my Mum last night... Ive not been contacted by anyone, I didnt even know there was a Will, let alone he had left me something.. It just seems so petty, greedy and laughable... Least I won't be following his examples in fatherhood... im going to be the best Dad in the world Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chilli Red Posted October 28, 2010 Share Posted October 28, 2010 Money does terrible things to people Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
andlid Posted October 28, 2010 Share Posted October 28, 2010 Money does terrible things to people +1 been on the receiving end of greed in this country bad bad and hope nobody ever experience it. Tarmac Id leave it be... get above it and tut at your dad the next time you see him, horrible behaviour. As stated I dont think there will be anyone able to cut you out, whos the administrator of the will? I'd say they'll sort it out ... As I typed ^ I can't believe your dad did that he needs some talking too.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ChrisS Posted October 28, 2010 Share Posted October 28, 2010 Most probably not aimed at you,but at other parties because of knowelge of a previuos will. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chesterfield Posted October 28, 2010 Share Posted October 28, 2010 As Chris has said above, the contesting is probably not aimed at you, but more the other parties involved that are set to receive considerable sums. Id just sit tight and see what happens. Its unlikely that your inheritance will be revised given the releatively small ammount you are set to receive from the whole estates valuation. If you get it, then good, the £1000 from your grandad can go to his great grand daughter, as I suppose youd just put it in savings for her or something. If you dont, then its no massive hardship, and it substantiates your not engaging with your father for these years. If you chase it through the courts, then solicitors fees will outweigh the £1000 within a couple of letters and phonecalls, so its not worth it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
stanski Posted October 28, 2010 Share Posted October 28, 2010 Unfortunately I have bitter experience of something like this, I was left some land on Skye by close friends of the family but years later suddenly the will was changed so everything went to the owners of the carehome that she stayed in when her husband died. I was contacted by a well meaning solicitor who held the original will and thought it was suspicious, but nothing came of it, they could'nt do anything - the laws around carehomes in Scotland differ a lot frfom England and after spending a few thousand on solicitors in Scotland it went to the high court for evaluation but they did'nt think there was enough evidence - so s**t happens but thats life you learn and you move on, hopefully they will choke on their spoils! b*****ds! I will have a word with a good contact for you mate - will PM later Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ricey Posted October 28, 2010 Share Posted October 28, 2010 If your not fussed about he money he's actually done you a favour thats emotionally worth far more than a grand. 1) He's shown you just how good of a dad YOU are and that having a gash father doesn't mean you instantly grow up to be a cretin or a bad father yourself. 2) He's hit the final nail in your relationship with him. You now never have to wonder if you could/should of done more to have a relationship with him. Decision made - no regrets. You'll note many of my posts ask for 'Dad' advice........there's a reason for that! In the words of Keanu Reeves in Parenthood....... 'You need a license to drive a car,you even need a license to fish. But any buttreeming asshole can be a father'. ......never a truer statement made. Stroll with a smile on your face mate. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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