Thanks mate, I'll take it nice and steady, give her space like you say. I won't mess with her head, I love her enough to support her in her decision, she has to come first just now and I'll be fine in time.
Don't worry about her ex needing a slap. He must be a decent bloke or she wouldn't be with him. She is a very good judge of character and I trust her. If anyone did need a slap I did Ju Jitsu for 8 years, worked the doors for 8 years and now Powerlift competitively. He lifts weights but is about 14 stone wet through so I could put the guy in orbit if I really felt that way about it. I don't of course, I have no bad feeling toward the guy and me getting violent would only upset her. I would accept that physical violence is sometimes appropriate, but this isn't one of those times.
Thanks for the support.
Im close to 14 stones I wanna go orbit