after days and nights of work and reading the service manual back and forth it turns out to be a faulty BCM.
now i need to buy one, get it fitted and coded according to the dealer (cost £750 or there abouts according to dealer).
the BCM it self will take between 3 to 6 weeks to get delivered, although mike in essex mentioned that he could get it from amsterdam in 1 week.
any suggestions for a cheaper or faster deals would be much appreciated.